Mediation With Representation
Collaborative Lawyers in Eastbourne, Hailsham and Polegate
Traditionally, when couples separate, they each take independent legal advice from specialist family solicitors. Working through their lawyers, they try to reach an agreement on how best to settle their differences.
They work out how to share the assets – and the responsibilities. For example the children, as they each go their separate ways.
In many cases, with our help, couples reach an agreement in this way. Where they do not, it is often left to Family Courts to decide.
Family Mediators in East Sussex
Mediation is often a good way of resolving matters without Court involvement. Please read more on mediation services
However, some clients find that traditional mediation (where lawyers do not attend) does not work in all cases.
A collaborative approach is often described as ‘mediation with representation’ and has the highest success rate of all.
With collaborative law, you and your former partner sit down and with the help of your own solicitors, together in the same room, work out a resolution ‘face to face’.
Clearly, this is not for everybody, but in those cases where you feel you can work with your former partner, this is an excellent and cost-effective way of resolving matters without Court action.
Family lawyers working together
Rather than dealing through your solicitors, you work with them, to reach the best solutions for you and your family. Your solicitor may also suggest bringing other professionals into the process to help reach an agreement. This could include a pension advisor, an independent financial adviser, a collaboratively trained Barrister or a family consultant. In a lot of cases, matters can be resolved simply with the assistance of the solicitors.
It sounds very straightforward, but to work requires the right people with the right frame of mind:
- A genuine desire to reach an agreement that is fair to the whole family
- A willingness to disclose, fully and honestly, information about all assets
- Skilled and trained solicitors, who are accomplished in what they do
- Commitment to reaching a solution without going to Court
What makes it so successful?
You still benefit from having your own independent legal adviser. However, you are in control without the threat of Court proceedings hanging over you.
You set the agenda, so you talk about the things that matter most to you and your family. Also setting your own pace, because you are not governed by Court dates and appearances.
You maintain contact with your former partner – when you attend meetings with your solicitors. In that way you have the best chance of understanding each other and finding the right solutions.
Remember, if children are involved, you will both remain parents and it will help your children to cope better with the separation if they see that you are working things out together. Most importantly, the key decisions you make about your future are yours – and not a stranger in the Court Room.